diff --git a/examples-staging/assets-cloud/schema.graphql b/examples-staging/assets-cloud/schema.graphql
index 6e73618ef22..746fe6f4e21 100644
--- a/examples-staging/assets-cloud/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples-staging/assets-cloud/schema.graphql
@@ -175,9 +175,9 @@ input AuthorUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input PostRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   connect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples-staging/assets-local/schema.graphql b/examples-staging/assets-local/schema.graphql
index c6be74a2179..1666b6a7eb4 100644
--- a/examples-staging/assets-local/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples-staging/assets-local/schema.graphql
@@ -153,9 +153,9 @@ input AuthorUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input PostRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   connect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples-staging/basic/schema.graphql b/examples-staging/basic/schema.graphql
index 2f3587b414c..afc901d0c40 100644
--- a/examples-staging/basic/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples-staging/basic/schema.graphql
@@ -229,16 +229,16 @@ input FileFieldInput {
 }
 
 input PhoneNumberRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [PhoneNumberCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [PhoneNumberWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [PhoneNumberWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [PhoneNumberCreateInput!]
   connect: [PhoneNumberWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
 input PostRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   connect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples-staging/ecommerce/schema.graphql b/examples-staging/ecommerce/schema.graphql
index ede25549b39..8d3586e390b 100644
--- a/examples-staging/ecommerce/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples-staging/ecommerce/schema.graphql
@@ -245,16 +245,16 @@ input UserUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input CartItemRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [CartItemCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [CartItemWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [CartItemWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [CartItemCreateInput!]
   connect: [CartItemWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
 input OrderRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [OrderCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [OrderWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [OrderWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [OrderCreateInput!]
   connect: [OrderWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
@@ -265,9 +265,9 @@ input RoleRelateToOneForUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input ProductRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [ProductCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [ProductWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [ProductWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [ProductCreateInput!]
   connect: [ProductWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
@@ -622,9 +622,9 @@ input OrderUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input OrderItemRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [OrderItemCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [OrderItemWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [OrderItemWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [OrderItemCreateInput!]
   connect: [OrderItemWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
@@ -690,9 +690,9 @@ input RoleUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input UserRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [UserCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [UserWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [UserWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [UserCreateInput!]
   connect: [UserWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples-staging/graphql-api-endpoint/schema.graphql b/examples-staging/graphql-api-endpoint/schema.graphql
index 3caa70617f4..0e8af06dfab 100644
--- a/examples-staging/graphql-api-endpoint/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples-staging/graphql-api-endpoint/schema.graphql
@@ -153,9 +153,9 @@ input UserUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input PostRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   connect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
@@ -227,9 +227,9 @@ input UserRelateToOneForUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input TagRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [TagCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [TagWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [TagWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [TagCreateInput!]
   connect: [TagWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples-staging/roles/schema.graphql b/examples-staging/roles/schema.graphql
index d3d71b849e7..13c4c49d096 100644
--- a/examples-staging/roles/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples-staging/roles/schema.graphql
@@ -208,9 +208,9 @@ input RoleRelateToOneForUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input TodoRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [TodoCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [TodoWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [TodoWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [TodoCreateInput!]
   connect: [TodoWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
@@ -282,9 +282,9 @@ input RoleUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input PersonRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [PersonCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [PersonWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [PersonWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [PersonCreateInput!]
   connect: [PersonWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples-staging/sandbox/schema.graphql b/examples-staging/sandbox/schema.graphql
index 1b415c31622..f605c9838cd 100644
--- a/examples-staging/sandbox/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples-staging/sandbox/schema.graphql
@@ -121,9 +121,9 @@ input UserUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input TodoRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [TodoCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [TodoWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [TodoWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [TodoCreateInput!]
   connect: [TodoWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples/blog/schema.graphql b/examples/blog/schema.graphql
index d0edfca215f..8cd1572e23a 100644
--- a/examples/blog/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples/blog/schema.graphql
@@ -142,9 +142,9 @@ input AuthorUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input PostRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   connect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples/custom-admin-ui-logo/schema.graphql b/examples/custom-admin-ui-logo/schema.graphql
index 24200845cd6..2a242b9df0d 100644
--- a/examples/custom-admin-ui-logo/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples/custom-admin-ui-logo/schema.graphql
@@ -181,9 +181,9 @@ input PersonUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input TaskRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   connect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples/custom-admin-ui-navigation/schema.graphql b/examples/custom-admin-ui-navigation/schema.graphql
index 24200845cd6..2a242b9df0d 100644
--- a/examples/custom-admin-ui-navigation/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples/custom-admin-ui-navigation/schema.graphql
@@ -181,9 +181,9 @@ input PersonUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input TaskRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   connect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples/custom-admin-ui-pages/schema.graphql b/examples/custom-admin-ui-pages/schema.graphql
index 24200845cd6..2a242b9df0d 100644
--- a/examples/custom-admin-ui-pages/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples/custom-admin-ui-pages/schema.graphql
@@ -181,9 +181,9 @@ input PersonUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input TaskRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   connect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples/custom-field-view/schema.graphql b/examples/custom-field-view/schema.graphql
index 124e26dd9dc..cd631eb0b77 100644
--- a/examples/custom-field-view/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples/custom-field-view/schema.graphql
@@ -184,9 +184,9 @@ input PersonUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input TaskRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   connect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples/custom-field/schema.graphql b/examples/custom-field/schema.graphql
index f165d6d76c5..99a0429db02 100644
--- a/examples/custom-field/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples/custom-field/schema.graphql
@@ -116,9 +116,9 @@ input AuthorUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input PostRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   connect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples/default-values/schema.graphql b/examples/default-values/schema.graphql
index 24200845cd6..2a242b9df0d 100644
--- a/examples/default-values/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples/default-values/schema.graphql
@@ -181,9 +181,9 @@ input PersonUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input TaskRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   connect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples/document-field/schema.graphql b/examples/document-field/schema.graphql
index 6d7e7f7dc62..d36cda0ef17 100644
--- a/examples/document-field/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples/document-field/schema.graphql
@@ -126,9 +126,9 @@ input AuthorUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input PostRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   connect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples/extend-graphql-schema/schema.graphql b/examples/extend-graphql-schema/schema.graphql
index 75d76e389ba..fbbced1cda7 100644
--- a/examples/extend-graphql-schema/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples/extend-graphql-schema/schema.graphql
@@ -141,9 +141,9 @@ input AuthorUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input PostRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   connect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples/json/schema.graphql b/examples/json/schema.graphql
index 45b03572944..8408c6cd104 100644
--- a/examples/json/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples/json/schema.graphql
@@ -103,9 +103,9 @@ input PersonUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input PackageRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [PackageCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [PackageWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [PackageWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [PackageCreateInput!]
   connect: [PackageWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples/task-manager/schema.graphql b/examples/task-manager/schema.graphql
index 24200845cd6..2a242b9df0d 100644
--- a/examples/task-manager/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples/task-manager/schema.graphql
@@ -181,9 +181,9 @@ input PersonUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input TaskRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   connect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples/testing/schema.graphql b/examples/testing/schema.graphql
index c37b0c90fde..3729dc56313 100644
--- a/examples/testing/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples/testing/schema.graphql
@@ -250,9 +250,9 @@ input PersonUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input TaskRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   connect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples/virtual-field/schema.graphql b/examples/virtual-field/schema.graphql
index 1ad3971c405..e458fce1ee8 100644
--- a/examples/virtual-field/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples/virtual-field/schema.graphql
@@ -124,9 +124,9 @@ input AuthorUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input PostRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [PostCreateInput!]
   connect: [PostWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/examples/with-auth/schema.graphql b/examples/with-auth/schema.graphql
index c37b0c90fde..3729dc56313 100644
--- a/examples/with-auth/schema.graphql
+++ b/examples/with-auth/schema.graphql
@@ -250,9 +250,9 @@ input PersonUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input TaskRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   connect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/packages/keystone/src/fields/types/relationship/tests/implementation.test.ts b/packages/keystone/src/fields/types/relationship/tests/implementation.test.ts
index ce9228f1ed5..a0ad7b73b6b 100644
--- a/packages/keystone/src/fields/types/relationship/tests/implementation.test.ts
+++ b/packages/keystone/src/fields/types/relationship/tests/implementation.test.ts
@@ -88,9 +88,9 @@ describe('Type Generation', () => {
 
     expect(printType(schema.getType('ZipRelateToManyForUpdateInput')!)).toMatchInlineSnapshot(`
 "input ZipRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [ZipCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [ZipWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [ZipWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [ZipCreateInput!]
   connect: [ZipWhereUniqueInput!]
 }"
 `);
diff --git a/packages/keystone/src/lib/core/types-for-lists.ts b/packages/keystone/src/lib/core/types-for-lists.ts
index 869d7161fe7..bd9eb082bc7 100644
--- a/packages/keystone/src/lib/core/types-for-lists.ts
+++ b/packages/keystone/src/lib/core/types-for-lists.ts
@@ -207,7 +207,21 @@ export function initialiseLists(
         const { fields } = lists[listKey];
         return Object.fromEntries(
           Object.entries(fields).flatMap(([key, field]) => {
-            if (!field.input?.create?.arg || !field.graphql.isEnabled.create) return [];
+            if (
+              // We're going to skip this field if...
+              !field.input?.create?.arg || // The field type doesn't support create, or
+              !field.graphql.isEnabled.create || // Create has been disabled on this field, or
+              (field.dbField.kind === 'relation' && // This is a relationship field and the related list...
+                !(
+                  isEnabled[field.dbField.list].create || // Doesn't support create
+                  // and also
+                  isEnabled[field.dbField.list].query || // Doesn't support uniqueWhere (?)
+                  isEnabled[field.dbField.list].update ||
+                  isEnabled[field.dbField.list].delete
+                ))
+            ) {
+              return [];
+            }
             return [[key, field.input.create.arg]] as const;
           })
         );
@@ -220,7 +234,21 @@ export function initialiseLists(
         const { fields } = lists[listKey];
         return Object.fromEntries(
           Object.entries(fields).flatMap(([key, field]) => {
-            if (!field.input?.update?.arg || !field.graphql.isEnabled.update) return [];
+            if (
+              // We're going to skip this field if...
+              !field.input?.update?.arg || /// The field type doesn't support update, or
+              !field.graphql.isEnabled.update || // Update has been disabled on this field, or
+              (field.dbField.kind === 'relation' && // This is a relationship field and the related list...
+                !(
+                  isEnabled[field.dbField.list].create || // Doesn't support create
+                  // and also
+                  isEnabled[field.dbField.list].query || // Doesn't support uniqueWhere (?)
+                  isEnabled[field.dbField.list].update ||
+                  isEnabled[field.dbField.list].delete
+                ))
+            ) {
+              return [];
+            }
             return [[key, field.input.update.arg]] as const;
           })
         );
@@ -262,10 +290,26 @@ export function initialiseLists(
       fields: () => {
         const list = lists[listKey];
         return {
-          ...(list.access.create !== false && {
+          // Create via a relationship is only supported if this list allows create
+          ...(list.graphql.isEnabled.create && {
             create: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.list(graphql.nonNull(create)) }),
           }),
-          connect: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.list(graphql.nonNull(uniqueWhere)) }),
+          // Connecting to this list (via a uniqueWhere) is only supported if uniqueWhere already exists
+          ...((list.graphql.isEnabled.query ||
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.update ||
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.delete) && {
+            connect: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.list(graphql.nonNull(uniqueWhere)) }),
+          }),
+          ...(!(
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.create ||
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.query ||
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.update ||
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.delete
+          ) && {
+            // We can't have an empty type, so leave a placeholder. This input type
+            // will never actually get used, so this will never end up in the GraphQL API.
+            _unused_placeholder: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.Boolean }),
+          }),
         };
       },
     });
@@ -274,13 +318,28 @@ export function initialiseLists(
       name: names.relateToManyForUpdateInputName,
       fields: () => {
         const list = lists[listKey];
+        const _isEnabled = list.graphql.isEnabled;
         return {
-          disconnect: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.list(graphql.nonNull(uniqueWhere)) }),
-          set: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.list(graphql.nonNull(uniqueWhere)) }),
-          ...(list.access.create !== false && {
+          // Create via a relationship is only supported if this list allows create
+          ...(_isEnabled.create && {
             create: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.list(graphql.nonNull(create)) }),
           }),
-          connect: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.list(graphql.nonNull(uniqueWhere)) }),
+          // Connecting/disconnecting/setting to this list (via a uniqueWhere) is only supported if uniqueWhere already exists
+          ...((_isEnabled.query || _isEnabled.update || _isEnabled.delete) && {
+            disconnect: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.list(graphql.nonNull(uniqueWhere)) }),
+            set: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.list(graphql.nonNull(uniqueWhere)) }),
+            connect: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.list(graphql.nonNull(uniqueWhere)) }),
+          }),
+          ...(!(
+            _isEnabled.create ||
+            _isEnabled.query ||
+            _isEnabled.update ||
+            _isEnabled.delete
+          ) && {
+            // We can't have an empty type, so leave a placeholder. This input type
+            // will never actually get used, so this will never end up in the GraphQL API.
+            _unused_placeholder: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.Boolean }),
+          }),
         };
       },
     });
@@ -290,10 +349,26 @@ export function initialiseLists(
       fields: () => {
         const list = lists[listKey];
         return {
-          ...(list.access.create !== false && {
+          // Create via a relationship is only supported if this list allows create
+          ...(list.graphql.isEnabled.create && {
             create: graphql.arg({ type: create }),
           }),
-          connect: graphql.arg({ type: uniqueWhere }),
+          // Connecting to this list (via a uniqueWhere) is only supported if uniqueWhere already exists
+          ...((list.graphql.isEnabled.query ||
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.update ||
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.delete) && {
+            connect: graphql.arg({ type: uniqueWhere }),
+          }),
+          ...(!(
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.create ||
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.query ||
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.update ||
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.delete
+          ) && {
+            // We can't have an empty type, so leave a placeholder. This input type
+            // will never actually get used, so this will never end up in the GraphQL API.
+            _unused_placeholder: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.Boolean }),
+          }),
         };
       },
     });
@@ -303,11 +378,27 @@ export function initialiseLists(
       fields: () => {
         const list = lists[listKey];
         return {
-          ...(list.access.create !== false && {
+          // Create via a relationship is only supported if this list allows create
+          ...(list.graphql.isEnabled.create && {
             create: graphql.arg({ type: create }),
           }),
-          connect: graphql.arg({ type: uniqueWhere }),
-          disconnect: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.Boolean }),
+          // Connecting/disconnecting/setting to this list (via a uniqueWhere) is only supported if uniqueWhere already exists
+          ...((list.graphql.isEnabled.query ||
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.update ||
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.delete) && {
+            connect: graphql.arg({ type: uniqueWhere }),
+            disconnect: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.Boolean }),
+          }),
+          ...(!(
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.create ||
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.query ||
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.update ||
+            list.graphql.isEnabled.delete
+          ) && {
+            // We can't have an empty type, so leave a placeholder. This input type
+            // will never actually get used, so this will never end up in the GraphQL API.
+            _unused_placeholder: graphql.arg({ type: graphql.Boolean }),
+          }),
         };
       },
     });
diff --git a/packages/keystone/src/types/next-fields.ts b/packages/keystone/src/types/next-fields.ts
index b362bb1f0cb..7b0054b974d 100644
--- a/packages/keystone/src/types/next-fields.ts
+++ b/packages/keystone/src/types/next-fields.ts
@@ -400,25 +400,27 @@ export type TypesForList = {
         none: graphql.Arg<AnyInputObj>;
       }>;
       create: graphql.InputObjectType<{
-        connect: graphql.Arg<graphql.ListType<graphql.NonNullType<TypesForList['uniqueWhere']>>>;
+        connect?: graphql.Arg<graphql.ListType<graphql.NonNullType<TypesForList['uniqueWhere']>>>;
         create?: graphql.Arg<graphql.ListType<graphql.NonNullType<TypesForList['create']>>>;
       }>;
       update: graphql.InputObjectType<{
-        disconnect: graphql.Arg<graphql.ListType<graphql.NonNullType<TypesForList['uniqueWhere']>>>;
-        set: graphql.Arg<graphql.ListType<graphql.NonNullType<TypesForList['uniqueWhere']>>>;
-        connect: graphql.Arg<graphql.ListType<graphql.NonNullType<TypesForList['uniqueWhere']>>>;
+        disconnect?: graphql.Arg<
+          graphql.ListType<graphql.NonNullType<TypesForList['uniqueWhere']>>
+        >;
+        set?: graphql.Arg<graphql.ListType<graphql.NonNullType<TypesForList['uniqueWhere']>>>;
+        connect?: graphql.Arg<graphql.ListType<graphql.NonNullType<TypesForList['uniqueWhere']>>>;
         create?: graphql.Arg<graphql.ListType<graphql.NonNullType<TypesForList['create']>>>;
       }>;
     };
     one: {
       create: graphql.InputObjectType<{
         create?: graphql.Arg<TypesForList['create']>;
-        connect: graphql.Arg<TypesForList['uniqueWhere']>;
+        connect?: graphql.Arg<TypesForList['uniqueWhere']>;
       }>;
       update: graphql.InputObjectType<{
         create?: graphql.Arg<TypesForList['create']>;
-        connect: graphql.Arg<TypesForList['uniqueWhere']>;
-        disconnect: graphql.Arg<typeof graphql.Boolean>;
+        connect?: graphql.Arg<TypesForList['uniqueWhere']>;
+        disconnect?: graphql.Arg<typeof graphql.Boolean>;
       }>;
     };
   };
diff --git a/tests/api-tests/access-control/schema-utils.ts b/tests/api-tests/access-control/schema-utils.ts
index 6a0f1589be3..c877f6350dd 100644
--- a/tests/api-tests/access-control/schema-utils.ts
+++ b/tests/api-tests/access-control/schema-utils.ts
@@ -1,4 +1,4 @@
-import { text } from '@keystone-next/keystone/fields';
+import { relationship, text } from '@keystone-next/keystone/fields';
 import { createSchema, list } from '@keystone-next/keystone';
 import { statelessSessions } from '@keystone-next/keystone/session';
 import { apiTestConfig } from '../utils';
@@ -116,6 +116,11 @@ const createFieldStatic = (isEnabled: FieldEnabled) => ({
   [getFieldName(isEnabled)]: text({ graphql: { isEnabled } }),
 });
 
+const createRelatedFields = (isEnabled: ListEnabled) => ({
+  [`${getListPrefix(isEnabled)}one`]: relationship({ ref: getListName(isEnabled), many: false }),
+  [`${getListPrefix(isEnabled)}many`]: relationship({ ref: getListName(isEnabled), many: true }),
+});
+
 const lists = createSchema({});
 
 listEnabledVariations.forEach(isEnabled => {
@@ -128,6 +133,13 @@ listEnabledVariations.forEach(isEnabled => {
   });
 });
 
+lists.RelatedToAll = list({
+  fields: Object.assign(
+    {},
+    ...listEnabledVariations.map(variation => createRelatedFields(variation))
+  ),
+});
+
 const config = apiTestConfig({
   lists,
   session: statelessSessions({ secret: COOKIE_SECRET }),
diff --git a/tests/api-tests/access-control/schema.test.ts b/tests/api-tests/access-control/schema.test.ts
index 44b893416da..e1eafa644b8 100644
--- a/tests/api-tests/access-control/schema.test.ts
+++ b/tests/api-tests/access-control/schema.test.ts
@@ -39,10 +39,16 @@ describe(`Schema`, () => {
   let queries: string[],
     mutations: string[],
     types: string[],
+    typesByName: Record<string, any>,
     fieldTypes: Record<
       string,
       { name: string; fields: Record<string, any>; inputFields: Record<string, any> }
     >;
+  let __schema: {
+    types: { name: string; fields: { name: string }[]; inputFields: { name: string }[] }[];
+    queryType: { fields: { name: string }[] };
+    mutationType: { fields: { name: string }[] };
+  };
   beforeAll(async () => {
     testEnv = await setupTestEnv({ config });
     context = testEnv.testArgs.context;
@@ -50,14 +56,11 @@ describe(`Schema`, () => {
     await testEnv.connect();
 
     const data = await context.graphql.run({ query: introspectionQuery });
-    const __schema: {
-      types: { name: string; fields: { name: string }[]; inputFields: { name: string }[] }[];
-      queryType: { fields: { name: string }[] };
-      mutationType: { fields: { name: string }[] };
-    } = data.__schema;
+    __schema = data.__schema;
     queries = __schema.queryType.fields.map(({ name }) => name);
     mutations = __schema.mutationType.fields.map(({ name }) => name);
     types = __schema.types.map(({ name }) => name);
+    typesByName = Object.fromEntries(__schema.types.map(t => [t.name, t]));
     fieldTypes = Object.fromEntries(
       __schema.types.map(type => [
         type.name,
@@ -87,7 +90,7 @@ describe(`Schema`, () => {
         if (
           isEnabled === undefined ||
           isEnabled === true ||
-          (isEnabled !== false && (isEnabled?.query || isEnabled?.update || isEnabled?.delete))
+          (isEnabled !== false && (isEnabled.query || isEnabled.update || isEnabled.delete))
         ) {
           // Filter types are also available for update/delete/create (thanks
           // to nested mutations)
@@ -96,6 +99,77 @@ describe(`Schema`, () => {
           expect(types).not.toContain(gqlNames.whereUniqueInputName);
         }
 
+        // The relateTo types do not exist if the list has been completely
+        // disabled, or if all four operations have been individually disabled.
+        if (
+          isEnabled === false ||
+          (isEnabled !== undefined &&
+            isEnabled !== true &&
+            !(isEnabled.query || isEnabled.create || isEnabled.update || isEnabled.delete))
+        ) {
+          expect(types).not.toContain(gqlNames.relateToManyForCreateInputName);
+          expect(types).not.toContain(gqlNames.relateToOneForCreateInputName);
+          expect(types).not.toContain(gqlNames.relateToManyForUpdateInputName);
+          expect(types).not.toContain(gqlNames.relateToOneForUpdateInputName);
+        } else {
+          expect(types).toContain(gqlNames.relateToManyForCreateInputName);
+          expect(types).toContain(gqlNames.relateToOneForCreateInputName);
+          expect(types).toContain(gqlNames.relateToManyForUpdateInputName);
+          expect(types).toContain(gqlNames.relateToOneForUpdateInputName);
+
+          const createFromMany = typesByName[
+            gqlNames.relateToManyForCreateInputName
+          ].inputFields.map(({ name }: { name: string }) => name);
+          const createFromOne = typesByName[gqlNames.relateToOneForCreateInputName].inputFields.map(
+            ({ name }: { name: string }) => name
+          );
+          const updateFromMany = typesByName[
+            gqlNames.relateToManyForUpdateInputName
+          ].inputFields.map(({ name }: { name: string }) => name);
+          const updateFromOne = typesByName[gqlNames.relateToOneForUpdateInputName].inputFields.map(
+            ({ name }: { name: string }) => name
+          );
+
+          expect(createFromMany).not.toContain('_unused_placeholder');
+
+          if (isEnabled === true || isEnabled === undefined || isEnabled.create) {
+            expect(createFromMany).toContain('create');
+            expect(createFromOne).toContain('create');
+            expect(updateFromMany).toContain('create');
+            expect(updateFromOne).toContain('create');
+          } else {
+            expect(createFromMany).not.toContain('create');
+            expect(createFromOne).not.toContain('create');
+            expect(updateFromMany).not.toContain('create');
+            expect(updateFromOne).not.toContain('create');
+          }
+          // The connect/disconnect/set operations are supported as long as the uniqueWhere
+          // exists, e.g. one of query/update/delete is supported.
+          if (
+            isEnabled === true ||
+            isEnabled === undefined ||
+            isEnabled.query ||
+            isEnabled.update ||
+            isEnabled.delete
+          ) {
+            expect(createFromMany).toContain('connect');
+            expect(createFromOne).toContain('connect');
+            expect(updateFromMany).toContain('connect');
+            expect(updateFromOne).toContain('connect');
+            expect(updateFromMany).toContain('disconnect');
+            expect(updateFromOne).toContain('disconnect');
+            expect(updateFromMany).toContain('set');
+          } else {
+            expect(createFromMany).not.toContain('connect');
+            expect(createFromOne).not.toContain('connect');
+            expect(updateFromMany).not.toContain('connect');
+            expect(updateFromOne).not.toContain('connect');
+            expect(updateFromMany).not.toContain('disconnect');
+            expect(updateFromOne).not.toContain('disconnect');
+            expect(updateFromMany).not.toContain('set');
+          }
+        }
+
         // Queries are only accessible when reading
         if (
           isEnabled === undefined ||
diff --git a/tests/api-tests/relationships/nested-mutations/create-singular.test.ts b/tests/api-tests/relationships/nested-mutations/create-singular.test.ts
index a4b48502e62..5c937e70d1f 100644
--- a/tests/api-tests/relationships/nested-mutations/create-singular.test.ts
+++ b/tests/api-tests/relationships/nested-mutations/create-singular.test.ts
@@ -38,7 +38,7 @@ const runner = setupTestRunner({
         fields: {
           name: text(),
         },
-        access: { read: false },
+        graphql: { isEnabled: { query: false } },
       }),
 
       EventToGroupNoReadHard: list({
@@ -66,7 +66,7 @@ const runner = setupTestRunner({
         fields: {
           name: text({ graphql: { isEnabled: { filter: true } } }),
         },
-        access: { create: false },
+        graphql: { isEnabled: { create: false } },
       }),
 
       EventToGroupNoCreateHard: list({
@@ -94,7 +94,7 @@ const runner = setupTestRunner({
         fields: {
           name: text(),
         },
-        access: { update: false },
+        graphql: { isEnabled: { update: false } },
       }),
 
       EventToGroupNoUpdateHard: list({
@@ -164,7 +164,7 @@ describe('no access control', () => {
 describe('with access control', () => {
   [
     { name: 'GroupNoRead', allowed: true, func: 'read: () => false' },
-    { name: 'GroupNoReadHard', allowed: true, func: 'read: false' },
+    { name: 'GroupNoReadHard', allowed: true, func: 'query: false' },
     { name: 'GroupNoCreate', allowed: false, func: 'create: () => false' },
     { name: 'GroupNoCreateHard', allowed: false, func: 'create: false' },
     { name: 'GroupNoUpdate', allowed: true, func: 'update: () => false' },
diff --git a/tests/test-projects/basic/schema.graphql b/tests/test-projects/basic/schema.graphql
index 24200845cd6..2a242b9df0d 100644
--- a/tests/test-projects/basic/schema.graphql
+++ b/tests/test-projects/basic/schema.graphql
@@ -181,9 +181,9 @@ input PersonUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input TaskRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   connect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
 }
 
diff --git a/tests/test-projects/crud-notifications/schema.graphql b/tests/test-projects/crud-notifications/schema.graphql
index 24200845cd6..2a242b9df0d 100644
--- a/tests/test-projects/crud-notifications/schema.graphql
+++ b/tests/test-projects/crud-notifications/schema.graphql
@@ -181,9 +181,9 @@ input PersonUpdateInput {
 }
 
 input TaskRelateToManyForUpdateInput {
+  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   disconnect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
   set: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
-  create: [TaskCreateInput!]
   connect: [TaskWhereUniqueInput!]
 }