add return_status optional argument to coupler_types_send_data

[rem1776]

Description
adds return_statuses as an optional argument to coupler_types_send_data, along with some modifications to the test to ensure its working properly.

Fixes #1370

How Has This Been Tested?
tested on amd box with oneapi 2024.01

Checklist:

• [x My code follows the style guidelines of this project
• I have performed a self-review of my own code
• I have commented my code, particularly in hard-to-understand areas
• I have made corresponding changes to the documentation
• My changes generate no new warnings
• Any dependent changes have been merged and published in downstream modules
• New check tests, if applicable, are included
• make distcheck passed