[Improve][Jdbc] Disable upsert writes by default

[hailin0]

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• Code changed are covered with tests, or it does not need tests for reason:
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• If necessary, please update the documentation to describe the new feature. https://github.com/apache/seatunnel/tree/dev/docs
• If you are contributing the connector code, please check that the following files are updated:
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  2. Update plugin-mapping.properties and add new connector information in it
  3. Update the pom file of seatunnel-dist
• Update the release-note.