1. If threads are resized the threads' `ZSTD_pthread_t` might move
while the worker still holds a pointer into it (see more details in facebook#3120).
2. The join operation was waiting for a thread and then return its `thread.arg`
as a return value, but since the `ZSTD_pthread_t thread` was passed by value it
would have a stale `arg` that wouldn't match the thread's actual return value.

This fix changes the `ZSTD_pthread_join` API and removes support for returning
a value. This means that we are diverging from the `pthread_join` API and this
is no longer just an alias.
In the future, if needed, we could return a Windows thread's return value using
`GetExitCodeThread`, but as this path wouldn't be excised in any case, it's
preferable to not add it right now.

When spawning a Windows thread we have small worker wrapper function that translates
between the interfaces of Windows and POSIX threads.
This wrapper is given a pointer that might get stale before the worker starts running,
resulting in UB and crashes.
This commit adds synchronization so that we know the wrapper has finished reading the data
it needs before we allow the main thread to resume execution.