fix: update to actions/cache@v4 (#1471)

Updates to [actions/cache@v4](https://github.com/actions/cache/releases/tag/v4.0.0)
which among other things uses node 20 so silences all the warnings
about node@16 still being used.

actions/cache-node-modules/action.yml

@@ -21,7 +21,7 @@ runs:
   steps:
     # Windows I/O is so slow it's faster to just install the deps every time
     - if: ${{ runner.os != 'Windows' }}
-      uses: actions/cache@v3
+      uses: actions/cache@v4
       id: cache
       with:
         path: |