Provider query manager improvements

[gammazero]

• Use atomic value to protect variable timeout.
• Remove inProgressRequestStatuses map when empty.
• Do not append to slice forever. Use type that reuses items removed from front of list (e.g. channelqueue, deque
• Add configurable bitswap options:
  • WithMaxConcurrentFinds
  • WithMaxProvidersPerFind
• Make bitswap options configurable through client.

[codecov]

Codecov Report

Attention: Patch coverage is 78.48101% with 34 lines in your changes missing coverage. Please review.

Project coverage is 60.39%. Comparing base (c91cc1d) to head (9326f0a).

Files with missing lines	Patch %	Lines
bitswap/client/optios.go	56.52%	20 Missing ⚠️
...ernal/providerquerymanager/providerquerymanager.go	86.76%	6 Missing and 3 partials ⚠️
...ap/client/internal/providerquerymanager/options.go	83.87%	3 Missing and 2 partials ⚠️

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- Coverage   60.43%   60.39%   -0.05%     
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  Files         243      245       +2     
  Lines       31059    31111      +52     
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+ Hits        18771    18788      +17     
- Misses      10628    10654      +26     
- Partials     1660     1669       +9     

Files with missing lines	Coverage Δ
bitswap/client/client.go	90.25% <100.00%> (+2.31%)	⬆️
bitswap/server/internal/decision/engine.go	91.48% <100.00%> (ø)
...ap/client/internal/providerquerymanager/options.go	83.87% <83.87%> (ø)
...ernal/providerquerymanager/providerquerymanager.go	87.73% <86.76%> (-3.59%)	⬇️
bitswap/client/optios.go	56.52% <56.52%> (ø)

... and 9 files with indirect coverage changes

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[hsanjuan]

@gammazero heads up that I'm not looking into this one until #641 is through, at which point it will need to be redone...