deps(pybind11): bump pybind11 version to 2.11.1 and add initial Python 3.12 support

[XuehaiPan]

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• bump pybind11 version to 2.11.1
• add initial Python 3.12 support

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You can use the syntax close #15213 if this solves the issue #15213

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