win,build: improvements to vcbuild.bat

[joaocgreis]

Checklist

• make -j4 test (UNIX), or vcbuild test nosign (Windows) passes
• commit message follows commit guidelines

Affected core subsystem(s)

Windows, Build.

Description of change

This PR includes 3 changes to vcbuild.bat:

• 7642724 : Fail and exit immediately when an invalid option is passed to vcbuild.bat. Before there was only a warning, and since the output is quite verbose it was very easy to miss it and vcbuild would run without the options that the user probably wanted.
• f26497c : When msbuild and other Visual Studio tools are not needed, do not search for Visual Studio. This allows for running the tests in a machine with an unsupported version of VS, or no VS at all. This unblocks src: remove VS 2013 compatibility hacks #8067 , since for v6 onwards we want to build node only with VS2015 but still want to run the tests in machines with VS2013 (node-gyp will detect it independently).
• f2f2aa4 : When addons fail to build with node-gyp, fail immediately. Before, the build would only fail because the tests would fail later. This makes the output easier to read, since the run ends immediately after the failed node-gyp invocation.

I think the commits should not be squashed because they address different concerns, but I can squash if this is not consensual.

cc @nodejs/platform-windows

[bnoordhuis]

LGTM

[joaocgreis]

CI: https://ci.nodejs.org/job/node-test-pull-request/3957/

Landed in 292168e, b57c962 and 446c9cd.

Thanks!

[MylesBorins]

@joaocgreis should this be backported?

[joaocgreis]

@thealphanerd yes, I think all of this would also be helpful in v4. Thanks!