*: Exchange partition, fix LIST COLUMNs validation as well as NULL validation (#46533)

[YangKeao]

This is an manual cherry-pick of #46533 and #45980

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #46492

Problem Summary:
The main issue was that the values are store in single quoted strings, and when adding them to the parser as parameters, they are quoted again, which issues (ignored) internal warnings, and no matching rows will be found.

Also the check did not handle NULL, so I added proper null-safe comparison.

What is changed and how it works?

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• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
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• Breaking backward compatibility

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• Changes MySQL compatibility

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[YangKeao]

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• 2023-09-08 05:59:41.506313101 +0000 UTC m=+2684346.055329085: ☑️ agreed by xhebox.
• 2023-09-08 17:02:25.180898547 +0000 UTC m=+29527.105454941: ☑️ agreed by tiancaiamao.

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[YangKeao]

This PR is blocked by #45980

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[YangKeao]

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