pkg/executor: fix the hang issue in indexHashJoin (#49218)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #49218

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #49033

Problem Summary:

What changed and how does it work?

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Tests

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Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

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Fix the issue that the query hangs when it's killed by the tidb_mem_quota_query

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• 2023-12-19 09:54:51.270066654 +0000 UTC m=+954782.307293582: ☑️ agreed by wshwsh12.
• 2023-12-20 08:48:31.580298617 +0000 UTC m=+1037202.617525543: ☑️ agreed by guo-shaoge.