br: Enable checkpoint advancer to pause tasks lagged too large (#51441)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #51441

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #50803

Problem Summary:

What changed and how does it work?

Now, a new option called CheckPointLagLimit is added to the advancer config. When it is set, advancer will check if the checkpoint is lagged too large on every tick. If so, advancer would send a warning to PD and unstall the task.
PS: Theoretically, we need a resume signal when the task could be resumed. However, there is no channel to send this signal now. Maybe we will add it in the future.

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• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
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A new option called `CheckPointLagLimit` is added to the advancer config. When it is set, advancer will check if the checkpoint is lagged too large on every tick. If so, advancer would send a warning to PD and unstall the task.

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Note: we may also need to pick the PR that enables this.

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Timeline:

• 2024-03-28 02:11:39.698253338 +0000 UTC m=+2120326.720499726: ☑️ agreed by YuJuncen.
• 2024-03-28 09:23:58.872499648 +0000 UTC m=+2146265.894746036: ☑️ agreed by BornChanger.