sinkv2(ticdc): add max-multi-update-row config in mysql sink (#8191)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #8191

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: ref #8084

What is changed and how it works?

• Use GenUpdateSQLFast.
• Based on benchmark with different table width and batch update size, we choose 40 as default max multi update row size.
• If average row size is larger than MaxMultiUpdateRowSize (1024 by default), disable multi update SQL.
• Besides add two more sink parameters. max-multi-update-row and max-multi-update-row-size

table-width=80	table-width=188

table-width=432	table-width=916

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• Unit test
• Integration test

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[amyangfei]

/merge

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[amyangfei]

/run-integration-test