Updates for modern macOS dev (backport #4242)

[mergify]

Latest version of pip is needed, as well as a few config flags to show where to find graphviz (pygraphviz/pygraphviz#11 is somehow still helpful / relevant this many years on...)

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This is an automatic backport of pull request #4242 done by Mergify.

[mergify]

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