brpc_ps_client upgrade (#36943)

* test

* rm test

* add memory_sparse_table and brpc communication upgrade dependency

* fix

* add dense optimizer & fix dump bug & add some strategy fields

* fix

* fix

* remove thread_pool thread_queue

* add memory sparse table

* update memory sparse table

* update memory sparse table

* update cmake

* upgrade brpc_ps_client

* remove show/click_const in ctr_accessor

* fix deconstructor