[Cherry-pick #1991, #2043 to 1.22] Use Patch when syncing GCP BackendService. Linking backend groups still uses Update

[gauravkghildiyal]

#1991
#2043

/assign @swetharepakula

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[gauravkghildiyal]

We will not be releasing this in 1.22 since it has some breaking changes that require more investigation.