sink: fix issue, Fail-fast for unrecoverable DML errors (#1928)

[ti-chi-bot]

This is an automated cherry-pick of #1928

What problem does this PR solve?

• fix issue, Fail-fast for unrecoverable DML errors Fail-fast for unrecoverable DML errors #1724
• replace current retry usage with new pkg retry
• for some test cases, set backoffMaxDelayInMs=60*1000 same as previous/backoff retry pkg

What is changed and how it works?

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)

Code changes

• replace current retry usage with new pkg

Related changes

• Need to cherry-pick to the release branch

Release note

• No release note

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[ben1009]

/run-all-tests

[amyangfei]

Please resolve conflicts @ben1009

[ben1009]

blocked by https://github.com/pingcap/ticdc/pull/2091
[/home/runner/work/ticdc/ticdc/cdc/processor/pipeline/mounter_test.go:99:34: too few arguments in call to pipeline.NewPipeline /home/runner/work/ticdc/ticdc/cdc/processor/pipeline/mounter_test.go:100:32: too few arguments in call to newMounterNode]]"

[ben1009]

/run-all-tests

[3AceShowHand]

/run-all-tests

[3AceShowHand]

/run-all-tests

[ben1009]

/run-leak-tests

[ben1009]

/run-integration-tests

[ben1009]

/run-integration-tests

[ben1009]

/run-integration-tests

[codecov-commenter]

Codecov Report

Merging #2315 (c058f88) into release-4.0 (753073a) will increase coverage by 1.3672%.
The diff coverage is 57.4948%.

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+ Hits              8580      10724      +2144     
- Misses            6475       7708      +1233     
- Partials           903       1019       +116     

[3AceShowHand]

/run-kafka-tests

[ben1009]

/run-kafka-tests

[amyangfei]

/merge

[ti-chi-bot]

This pull request has been accepted and is ready to merge.

Commit hash: 85c8610