sink: fix issue, Fail-fast for unrecoverable DML errors (#1928)

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This is an automated cherry-pick of #1928

What problem does this PR solve?

• fix issue, Fail-fast for unrecoverable DML errors Fail-fast for unrecoverable DML errors #1724
• replace current retry usage with new pkg retry
• for some test cases, set backoffMaxDelayInMs=60*1000 same as previous/backoff retry pkg

What is changed and how it works?

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)

Code changes

• replace current retry usage with new pkg

Related changes

• Need to cherry-pick to the release branch

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[amyangfei]

Please resolve conflicts in this cherry-pick, thanks @ben1009

[ben1009]

Please resolve conflicts in this cherry-pick, thanks @ben1009

done

[amyangfei]

/merge

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