sink(ticdc): cherry pick sink bug fix to release 5.1 (#4119)

[ti-chi-bot]

This is an automated cherry-pick of #4119

This is an automated cherry-pick of #4083

What problem does this PR solve?

Cherrypick #3613 #3621 #3625 #3638 #3645 #3746

cc #3545

What is changed and how it works?

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
• No code

Code changes

• Has exported function/method change
• Has exported variable/fields change
• Has interface methods change
• Has persistent data change

Side effects

• Possible performance regression
• Increased code complexity
• Breaking backward compatibility

Related changes

• Need to cherry-pick to the release branch
• Need to update the documentation
• Need to update key monitor metrics in both TiCDC document and official document

Release note

Manage sink checkpoint per table to avoid checkpointTs advances unexpected.

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[sdojjy]

/run-leak-test

[sdojjy]

/run-unit-test

[asddongmen]

/merge

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[ti-chi-bot]

This pull request has been accepted and is ready to merge.

Commit hash: ac9588e

[ti-chi-bot]

In response to a cherrypick label: new pull request created: #4164.

[ti-chi-bot]

In response to a cherrypick label: new pull request created: #4165.